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2021.10.22 15:52 relationdone1 It feels like my boyfriend doesn’t try anymore. Should I give up on the relationship?
My boyfriend (24M) and I (22F) have been in a long distance relationship for a year and a month now. We met years ago through a mobile game and stayed friends before realizing our feelings for each other. This is my first relationship, but his third. Also, I’ve visited him 4 times but he hasn’t visited me yet, due to me living with my parents but him living in his own apartment with housemates. He is supposed to visit me for the first time for thanksgiving (my parents came around about the idea just recently).
Our relationship as bf/gf has always been pretty rocky. There are many things we just aren’t compatible in, which have contributed to the rockiness.
For example: • His love language is acts of service and physical touch, mine is words of affirmation. Long distance has made it hard for him to show that he loves me through touch (obviously), and he just doesn’t try to give me words of affirmation. He chalks it up to him just not being “that type of person.” We used to say “I love you” a lot more since I’m the type to want to say it to my significant other, but he wanted to stop because he wants to be “true to himself.” Or just saying it to keep it special, which I understand! Except he just never says it anymore. Barely any compliments/encouragement either. I also realized I didn’t understand acts of service until recently. When I would visit him, he would ask me to do chores like cleaning his room or doing the dishes or doing his laundry. I would do them, but sometimes felt like I was his maid. It wasn’t until I read an article that I realized he was basically indirectly asking for me to show that I love him. So now I am much more willing to do it for him. I also help him with schoolwork and offer to help wake him up in the morning by call. Being long distance makes it hard but these are the few things I came up with.
• The way we argue/our conflict resolution is not in line with each other. I feel like he never tells me his feelings. He’s always trying to break up when I feel like there could easily be a solution if we work together. But he says I’m always upset and it makes him upset, and it makes him want to break up.
•he’s told me every time I’m upset, it just makes him like me even less. But I’ve tried before not voicing any complaints for some time, yet I feel like he doesn’t act any different.
• He never confirms anything or says anything about what he’ll do. When I complain, he’ll never say “okay, I understand, we can try to do this.” or “Next time I’ll do this.” He always goes straight for “you shouldn’t feel that way because…” and “what’s wrong with you” and “you’re always upset…” Just never does anything to help me not be upset, even if it’s from things that he’s done.
• The stuff I bring up have been things that happened and haven’t been resolved in my eyes. For instance, last time I visited him, the day after I left, I overheard he went out to lunch with a girl (I knew he used to like her). Usually he’d post on snapchat whenever hanging out with a friend. I facetimed him after he got back and noticed he was in fancier clothes, that’s when I heard his housemate say “how was lunch with [name]?” So naturally I clued together that he dressed up to go to lunch with her, and intentionally hid it from me. I told him “Hey I think you should have told me about hanging out with her, since I know you guys used to like each other and acknowledged it. I don’t appreciate you hiding it from me.” And then he told me he asked advice from her about his and my relationship! Of course I got upset and said “our relationship is none of her concern. For all I know it could start an emotional affair, I don’t like it, I don’t really like you hanging out with her if that’s what you talk about.” And then the next day, he hung out with her again at her brothers soccer game. He had the gall to keep calling it a “date” even when I said to stop calling it that. His argument was that I should just trust him, but in my perspective, him hiding it and talking to her about us doesn’t give me any reason to trust. I honestly would have been okay with it if he told me about it before, but the thing is he hid it. The situation ended by me trying to tell him to set boundaries with her, and him deflecting that “she’s my friend, just trust me” Basically not acknowledging my feelings (as always), and making me feel like I’m crazy.
• Then for our anniversary (the last time I visited him) I honestly didn’t have many expectations. I wanted to just have dinner or lunch together just the two of us, somewhere nice. And I bought a special lingerie to use, I had kept it hidden as a surprise for later. So he brought me flowers in the morning which I really really appreciated! But then the day went really poorly. He ended up napping past lunch, and he had class at 2 so there wasn’t enough time to go. So he just napped longer until it was time for class. Turns out his class was actually at 3, so he napped for another hour. We went to his class together and then afterwards, since it was convenient, we just went to the campus dining commons. Turns out, from like 3 to 5, they stop serving food so they can get ready for dinner. So we sat there for an hour (from 4 to 5) waiting for dinner to be served. And unluckily, the food sucked. After we went back to his apartment and he was tired to he napped more until like 9. At that time, I really wanted to use the lingerie, so I hinted at him when he was awake. He really just said “oh, but what’s wrong with the ones you have on right now?” He wasn’t excited AT ALL. And then afterwards, I really wanted to go to karaoke with our friends. I had told him that the whole day. But he told me he was too tired. So we just ended the day like that. I’ve been feeling pretty upset about that day, so I’ve brought it up to him multiple times. Every time, he just complains that I’m always upset. He refuses to do anything to make up for it, because I think in his eyes, he wants to break up with me so there’s no point. He doesn’t want to make pointless promises. Except he straight up NEVER says anything about what he’ll do. If there was a day to say “i love you” or ANY compliment at all, I feel like that was the day. But I got nothing.
I guess I’m trying to say that through all our problems, I think I try my best to resolve them and work together and move past. But it feels like he doesn’t want to even try to work it out. He’d rather give up and break up. So nothing really gets resolved. Is there anything I should be doing differently? Am I misunderstanding something about the way he handles things? Is there anything to convince him to stop giving up? Maybe he just doesn’t like me enough to try anymore.
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2021.10.22 15:52 Icy_Tradition Im feeling real lustful and lonely...is this due to a transit or....?
Ive been feeling this way for two months but its gotten increasingly worse.
Theres this empty feeling in my heart and I just want someone to love...intimately, emotionally. I bought a gag of sex toys. Literally splurged. I think about men all the time now. I think about sex and love and family and all the other mushy stuff almost every single day now.
My envy meter has went up the roof. Like Im actually starting to feel jealousy for some women who get men that I "want" and Ive never had that happen to me before. Jealousy is not a common emotion for me until now.
I had crushes on men but it was never this serious. Wtf is going on??? Leo rising, cap sun and aries moon here.
I have stuff I need to do but this emotion is really digging in me.
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How am I just starting a card and instantly playing against people in their flawless match? This shit makes no sense at all. I just played 4 people in a row who all were on their final match and lost every single one.
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2021.10.22 15:52 SmoothAsMarble The idea that you don’t “choose” what you’re attracted to is stupid and a terrible excuse to be into weird shit
I see this a lot. Someone admits to being into weird shit or is “exposed” and one of the first excuses I hear is “well I can’t choose what I’m attracted to
Uhh yes you can. And we often do. Just because we don’t understand why we’re attracted to it doesn’t mean we didn’t make the choice. You don’t just wake up one day and think “huh, suddenly I’m into furries”. You form an attraction to something because you exposed yourself to it.
People need to stop using that excuse as a defense to be weird. Just admit you looked up a bunch of weird (or possibly illegal) stuff and it became a fetish. Trying to place something like that “out of your hands” is not only a bad excuse but it makes you look like an idiot.
And inb4 “let people enjoy what they want”, that’s not a good excuse either.
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2021.10.22 15:52 BriLo99898 Winter Break Sublet
Hi everyone. I am an international undergraduate, and I am looking for a place to stay during this winter break (Dec 19-Jan 18). Budget is about 600-700 something
Thank you :))
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Maybe i'm not looking hard enough or maybe my key-bindings are not setup right, but is there a way to turn on the chainsaw when it's in my hands, without going into the inventory? TIA
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